1. SEE visual pictures
Visualize an avatar (or celebrity look) of yourself and Develop that visual with Pinterest pictures (as a private board)
2. STORY tale
Develop a story around your personal brand and what you want the world or colleagues to understand about you. That will stay with you as you are looking for outfits in your closet. Unconsciously you will pick out better, more interesting looks matched to your personal brand
3. SLOWLY merge and assimilate your new look into your daily life.
Put your avatar on your mobile as a 2nd page wallpaper
Choose the easiest things you have in your own closet and start wearing 1 thing with your existing work (or play) uniform
Contact one person new to hang out with who looks like your brand (real or fictitious)
Route yourself a slightly new way to go home
4. OBSERVE people around you - on the street or in a cafe
What does this person have that is attractive about them (look at attitude, fit of clothes, bag)
5. DON'T tell your friends about your process
Most of the time our friends are like us. But since we are taking a slightly different route to self expression, you will find that some will be supportive and others will not.
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Although these types of personal guide articles are great, most of the time magazines dont give you practical advice on where to start getting that great look. For me, I've always wishes someone would have told me in a step by step way.....well....a practical step by step way on how to do it. And for me, step 1 does NOT mean get in a car and go to a store. It starts right in your own closet.
Without further or due, here is my top 4 things to have in your closet:
First up, WOOLITE DARK.
Its the best kept secret mom never told you about. Women have heard about handwashing their delicates but men have never had to use it before. This is great for keeping dark clothes dark. Use as detergent when washing dark clothes. That means everything from black t-shirts to super dark jeans. take CARE of your clothes - they are your investment pieces.
Last week I had a couple of guests for my weekly webinar series - Jerry Folly-Kossi and Khan Kanga from Swell Attitude, custom mens clothiers. They can get you a mean looking suit - styled and fit just for your body. And dont worry - if you dont know how to put it together, they can help. This is probably the first of 5 more DIY your Way to Style.
We talked about mens fashions dos (things to make sure you KEEP in your closet) and don'ts (things to immediately get rid of in your closet). Without further or due, here's the list:
1. Stay away from the BALLOON. Yes - this is excess shirt fabric around your torso. If you can pinch more than an inch and a half, its probably too big. Remember, you look MORE fit, MORE muscular with a fitted (not TIGHT) shirt.
When in doubt, ask specialists. Specialists can be educated retail store personal, stylists and custom tailors. It doesn't cost anything to ask. 9 times out of 10, you will have saved yourself from frustration, anguish, time and money by getting quality over quantity. A tailored shirt - casual or dressy can save you in the long run. Jerry and Khan can get you one starting at $160. Facebook Jerry or Khan.
2. Choose fitted blazers, cardigans and pants from your wardrobe. If you dont have any, try taking your shirt to the tailor or get a custom one made. AND BY THE WAY.....Undershirts, should not be shown. Hide them or choose a v-neck tee.
3. There is never an excuse to wear square toe shoes anymore. Try a comfortable lace-up that narrows toward the toe. If anything, it will help you look taller.
4. Tie Placement: When you tie your tie, make sure the tip hits anywhere from the top to the the middle of where your belt sits. Dont make it short (ouch) and certainly dont make it long - not unless you can "make that claim."
5. This is a tip from the first picture above. NEVER never never match your tie to your pocket square. We commend you on going for something new. Next time, step out and try to simply compliment your entire outfit with a pocket square, not match it.
First of all its just irritating to clean. Why can't we simply beckon the housecleaner every week? Even worse, she or he can't help us in that department! Its the procrastination problem cause you know it will look better, feel better, bring more smiles to your face in the morning ....and probably smell better (in some circumstances). I'm all about making the closet and everything in it work for you. Dont work for your closet! Stop using only 20% of it!
Instead.....follow Kelly Exeter's advice of the 20-10 rule. Of course I've altered it a bit to work for me and my clients:). Take 20 minutes to do a project or task relating to work. Then take 10 minutes to clean something on your "to been cleaned" list. That means 10 minutes to find at least 5 bags (one for each type of clothing you have - tops, bottoms, blazers, underwear, shoes). The next 10 minute break, apply the 6 mo and 6 inspirations rule to your tops. Have you worn it for 6 mo? If not, put it in a pile. Is this an inspirational t-shirt, gifted jacket? If so, keep 6....that's it. This takes some discipline here so are you ready to take on the challenge? The next break, take what you have finished out to the trunk of your car or garage or place "by the door" to go out. You'd be surprised, once things are out of your closet, whether its 1 bag or 10, you will feel more energetic, inspired, renewed! For more on the subject, check out her blog!
For both men and women its hard to predict weather given our indian summers during the September and October timeframe. Last saturday it was so cold I put on a long sleeve flannel shirt, scarf and jeans. I swore it was going to change - I had it all planned out: simply take off the scarf, button up my sleeves until short and throw on my sunglasses. BUT the weather NEVER changed! Sunday it was 82 in the shade. So what are we to do??!
1. Wear LIGHT layers
Layers generally come heavy with large wool scarves, hats and jackets. Light means light weight cotton scarves, light weight cotton/silk cardigans from the spring, light weight puff vests for guys and Cotton Blazers for gals. Light means long sleeve henley with a long sleeve light sweatshirt.
2. STOP, DROP and ROLL
Small trench coats like this one are great as a windbreaker, an added layer of warmth and is complimentary on every body type. Most of all, I love how they roll up into your bag in case you get too hot. At only $32, you cant beat it. Want a different look, try this one at $72 - still, a steal.
3. DRESS IT and FORGET IT
Go in your closet and choose a summer dress. Now put it on with booties and tights. Now, add a heavier cotton/wool blazer, a scarf and throw the roll up trench coat in your bag. Now, forget it about it!
4. VEST Vs the REST
Vests for Guys are the perfect add on piece for the Fall. Add it to a long sleeve henley or a button down checkered flannel shirt. A closely fitted vest in a light wool can take the place of a suit jacket. It could serve as an alternative suit for some guys with a different pair of trousers.
If you're not down for that look, try the Puff. Add a light cotton sweater to it and throw on some rolled up chinos and you're good.
Women, because the 2012 trend is in menswear, feel free to do the same with something more chic or super casual.
5. COLOR ME COLORFUL
Take the bright colors from spring and summer and pair them with neutrals. Light bright jeans with a soft oatmeal cashmere light sweater. Try wearing those colorful strappy sandalsl until you see rain in site. Take navy as your neutral on the top and bottom and pair with a bright neon green scarf. Beautiful.
This is a recap from a Wednesdays FREE webinar. In the webinar I listed 7 ways - feel free to chime in on other ways you've done "transitonal fall fashion" yourself! Stay tuned for next weeks theme on: SF Fashion Week :Local Fashion for Your Body Type
Seriously though....there is a difference between putting on CLOTHING, wearing FASHION and matching STYLE to personality. Fashion's Night Out next week, marks the time to kick off a great shopping season, engage consumers in every genre they have interest - everything from of course clothes, but music and games and food and makeovers and hair looks. For one day, SEPT 6th will be a global party. Started by American Vogue the day is meant to be full of FREE things. So make it a chance for you to focus on your priorities to elevate your STYLE instead of just buying CLOTHES and trying to be FASHION forward.
Simple things can do the job:
1. Get a new lipstick color
Saks Fifth Avenue - Fashion photo vignette, signature cocktails provided by Karlsson’s Vodka, light bites, mini-makeovers by NARS, CHANEL, Trish McEvoy and Laura Mercier & more! Please RSVP at 415.438.5411 or firstname.lastname@example.org (6p-8p); 384 Post St., SF
2. Get a new hair look (no cutting involved). Try the new "bun" do or use product for a wavy or super curly look.
Macy’s - Meet “Fashion Star” Ronnie Escalante, DIY nail bar, and hair “how to’s” (6p-11p); 170 O’Farrell St., SF
3. Don't forget that NAILS are accessories too. Go get yourself some new neutral, demeure pastel, deep burgundy or even cherry red. Choose to pick up hints of your shade on your eyes or lips for an elegant look.
alice + olivia by Stacey Bendet - 80’s jams, slumber party chick flicks, sweet treats, braid bars, manicures, charm bracelet stations, tattoo booths, and palm readers (6p-8p); 2259 Fillmore St., SF
FOR GUYS...(dont worry, I'll never leave you out)
1. Go get a tailored shirt from "Tailor Stitch brand" at Banana Republic
Banana Republic – Cocktails and an acoustic performance by Tristan Prettyman (6p-8p); 25 Grant Ave, SF
2. Even if you don't buy the all-around loafers at Kenneth Cole, definitely get yourself a shoe cleaning kit.
Kenneth Cole - Cocktails, hors d’oeuvres, $1000 gift card contest, and a complimentary tote with Foursquare Check-in (First 20 people will get one signed by Kenneth) (6p-11p); 865 Market Street Space #136, SF
3. And as a reward for doing all you do for STYLE, Check out
Porsche Design – Snacks, cocktails, raffle and a DJ (6p-8p); 100 Grant Ave.; SF
I wish I could say I was suffering from jet leg because I was on some remote island vacation spot with no access to phone nor computer and just couldn't wait to start my day.....NOPE>. Cant say that at all! Im too awake to sleep and too sleepy to do work. How is this possible at 4:39am? Am like in the mysterious "weird" hour or something. On time with the commuters, too early to chat online, On time with East Coast so I guess I could do some online shopping. (Stop thinking about work Tyese!) Just made a pot....but frankly Im not sure if I should be caffeinating myself at this hour. Ill crash by 10am!
Well Yesterdays shoot was certainly lively....Vepas honking, shop owners waving, pedestrians not sure to shop, walk or keep looking. It was little 'ol me doing my modeling thing...primping and posing in front of the camera with my new "do." There was even a trunk driver who got stuck at the crest of fillmore and broadway....what made him THINK it was just ok to drive a SEMI in Pac Heights anyway?
No but yesterday's photoshoot really got me to really thinking about what I wanted to showcase as Im redoing the new web site. Shopping? Consulting? Designing? Sure I do all that and more but things like "making clothes work for your personality", "the alternative...alternative" and "no rules apply" makes me feel like a book is due to be written. Who knows...
I was just reading harpar bazaars and an editor started to explain how she got involved with the fashion industry. She said she had to wear a school uniform and found that to be the beginning of her rebel-hood:). I cant say I experienced uniforms or even a strict upbringing preventing me to wear certain things. I remember spending what seemed like years in my closet getting ready in the morning. I couldnt find anything to wear even though I had a TON of clothes. In high school I remember looking in one set of my tall accordion brown closet doors for tops and another tall closet for bottoms and what did I end up wearing? the SAME thing I wore two days before. URGH...a canary yellow sweater with my white button up underneath and chinos. Mom gave me her clothes and the rest came from the goodwill or salvation army. You could never tell my family shopped thrift though....you could only tell I had bad taste. The next few posts will be a bunch of refelections....maybe even some you can relate too yourself:).
Did Men or Women invent these things?
The butt bra? Does your butt need a lift? Hummm....interesting.
Things like built in butts you can just put on....viola! Instant Bubblicious.
"No more muffin top" hosiery.
I'm not reallly mad at all that....spend $60-80 to look good under those $5 and $10 clothes from Marshalls or H&M. Right?
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In Paris I had the pleasure of being accompanied by Djibi (dee-bee) Diagana (designer) on a shopping trip just outside of Paris. We had a great conversation about the differences between US, Paris and British fashion. Very interesting.
He was saying that in the US you have plenty of creative people and those who love their independent freedom to express what they will. But they don't seem to express it as clothing on their body. Of course there are those exceptions right?...especially in San Francisco, New York, LA, etc People tend to look for catalogs to guide them what to wear....of course this is a general observation right?
In Paris they love fashion - it tends to follow them and like magic adhere to them right? ...Always wearing the right accessory, the right man bag, the right pair of glasses.....
In general our thought was that Parisians wear what they wear because its a culture (like Americans wear baseball caps). Its romanticized and in every store they go into, fashion runway stuff hits their eyes first - the cheap and the expensive. In certain aspects, they all look the same too.
In London - you have a greater percentage of people really express themselves the way they want - not letting a store or a fashion frenzy dictate. There is a lot more indie views on fashion and more cultures expressing themselves in the way they wear trends.
What do you think? You've been to Europe....what about Italy? or Germany?